Inspiration from the Chair
Confessions of a Self-Hating Cripple
Prologue
You might be asking yourself why you are reading this book. Well I asked myself the same sort of question. What do I have to say that hasn’t already been said? Who would possibly be interested in reading what I would write? Sound familiar? These self doubting attitudes held me back for years.
They said you can’t be a writer if you don’t read. Well I hated reading, and I did as little as possible. But look at this… I’m writing a book. So much for what people say.
I have attended a number of seminars and programs to, I think the word is, GROW myself. All of these events seem amazing at the time but the effects are short lived. The status quo returns within a few days. So, what is the answer?
For me, it’s ongoing. It’s making decisions, making choices, everyday.
I believe contribution and fulfillment lead to happiness. I believe giving value leads to a sense of accomplishment. I believe we need purpose.
Finding my purpose lead me here and to write this book.
I was born with a rare crippling condition that left me unable to use my arms and legs. I couldn’t do anything for myself. I needed 24 hour care. Growing up was difficult. All I could see were the things I couldn’t do. My life seemed pointless and hopeless. I was angry, fearful and depressed. I spent a good chunk of my twenties this way. What a waste… But, what a gift… It gave me a perspective from which I can share. I was in a very dark place, a place I know many people feel trapped. I can share where I was, what I did, and how things can change for you.
If you are reading this book you probably have an open mind. You probably are not happy with the way things are right now in your life. You likely feel something like: there must be more to life than this. The feeling of restless is a good thing, it keeps us growing and striving and creating.
Struggling is an inevitable part of life. Fear can be all-consuming. Many, including myself, are afraid of failure, disappointment, and ridicule. We are trained by society to limit our belief in ourselves because we cannot completely use our limbs. Luckily, humans can adapt to their circumstances. We are resilient and resourceful and smart. If we can forgive, overcome fears, and put a positive spin on any circumstance, we are limitless. – Destiney Osterritter
Chapter 1
What Is Your Sentence?
I was born with an extremely uncommon and crippling condition called Arthrogryposis Multiplex Congenita. Doctors told my parents when I was born I would never be able to hold my head up, sit by myself, do anything for myself. My mother cried for three months after I was born.
When I started public school, I noticed all my limitations. I saw what all the other kids could do and I couldn’t. I couldn’t run, jump, dance, climb trees, play sports, or even the small things like feed myself or go to the bathroom by myself. I couldn’t participate in gym class and I was left out of many school trips. I really didn’t complain but it still was just plain unfair.
When I started high school I was like every other teenage girl. I had crushes on boys, I wanted to go on dates, go to dances, go to prom, all the usual stuff. None of that really happened for me. I was depressed and afraid. I was afraid I’d never get married, never be a mom, never have anything I wanted in life. I thought I’d never be loved. I hated myself. All my friends had boyfriends and a couple of them were guys I had crushes on. I was so jealous and angry. I was in a lot of pain. I really just wanted to end it all.
My mother was sure that one day I would walk. She took me to Germany when I was a baby and for years I received cell therapy in the form of painful cell injections. I remember being taken to this woman, Cynthia Starmaker. She believed she was a very wise incarnated soul. She had big blonde eighties looking hair, lipstick smeared around her lips, and she played these native like drums. I was taken to the front of the room where I was laid on a table and asked to close my eyes. I was told to visualize some stuff and I really don’t remember the rest. A few years later I was taken to a church where a healer put his hands on me. I always believed my mother. I thought I might walk one day too. It was very disappointing when it never happened.
None of what I’m saying here is meant to place blame or guilt on anyone, especially my mother. I’m just attempting to paint a picture to explain how I felt. Hopeless. I wasn’t okay with myself. I wasn’t enough. I felt like, this isn’t my life, I can’t live like this forever. I lived as if I was waiting for my life to start. I wasn’t a complete person if I didn’t walk and I couldn’t really live my life this way. So I was just waiting, waiting for the day that there would be some miracle and I would walk. I became sad, angry and bitter. I was stuck in a win/lose mentality. When my friends succeeded, I was jealous of them. I knew it was wrong to feel jealous but I couldn’t help it. They seemed happy and to get all the breaks in life while, it seemed, I had to struggle.
When I was about 24, I was seriously trying to find a boyfriend. I joined all the dating sites I could find, friendfinder, dreammates, wanttomeetme, casualkiss. I really didn’t have much/any luck. I met close to 90 guys that were all duds. I went to a three day communication course in Toronto where I learned a lot of very cool stuff that could help me with my relationships with friends and family. Something else I learned was my sentence.
This sentence was an “I’m not blank, I’m blank.” kind of statement that embodied
our true deep down beliefs and fears about ourselves. An example would be: I’m not smart, I’m dumb. We learned that we created this sentence as a child from something that occurred in our environment and our own interpretation of that event and what it meant about us.
For example, in school, when the teacher asked a question and we raised our hand to
answer but we were incorrect the other students might have laughed at us. We might then create the sentence, “I’m not smart, I’m dumb,” and never raise our hand again.
When I discovered my sentence it hit me like a punch in the gut…. I wanted to cry right there. I had always believed that the reason I could never get a boyfriend was because guys were shallow and wouldn’t date a girl in a wheelchair. Or maybe it was that I was too fat or too ugly, or just all of the above. Anyway, after finding out my sentence, I realized I created my own misery with my own beliefs. The sentence I had created for myself was “I’m not valuable, I’m a burden.” Of course I didn’t have a boyfriend… What kind of person would I be to saddle someone like myself on a nice decent guy? I didn’t deserve a boyfriend and that is what I truly believed. I was unworthy and undeserving of love.
That sentence was the hardest thing I ever had to overcome. It was at the root of everything. Every fear, thought, limiting belief I had lead back to that sentence. “I’m not valuable, I’m a burden.” I was afraid of everything, real and imaginary. I was terrified of death, needles, public speaking, ghosts, spiders, being abandoned, being alone, pain… I had anxiety and frequent panic attacks, especially at night when it was dark and I was alone.
Awareness is the first step. Realizing that the beliefs you have are just that, beliefs, and not necessarily true. This was a challenge for me. Once I discovered my sentence I had some awareness of it’s power and control. However, I truly believed it. So how was I supposed to change it? It wasn’t easy and it took courage and a willingness to keep looking.
It is actually so much better knowing that it is your own thoughts, feelings, and
beliefs that are creating your reality and your life. Realizing this gives you the power because you are the thinker. Your thoughts create your feelings and beliefs. Of course, other people’s thoughts, feelings and beliefs can and do contribute to your own. However, you get to choose which ones are supportive to you and which to disregard as inhibiting.
NOTES for books…
every challenge is an opportunity
So here is what I believe
We can have anything and everything we dream of.
The only things stopping us is ourselves… our own limited beliefs, our own fears, our own attitudes… We create the blocks that keep the good things away.
You may say to me Destiny I’m a victim of my situation. Bad things just keep happening to me. I didn’t create the fire that burned down my house. I didn’t ask to be raped. My baby wasn’t supposed to die before me.
And I would say you’re right. Of course you didn’t want any of that. And of course it’s perfectly normal for you to have bad feelings about any of those events.
What I say then is to notice your feelings, perceptions, and attitudes. Allow yourself to have them. They are normal human reactions. This then allows you to respond how you choose to. When you have your experience instead of just being it, you then take back your power to choose something different.
Everything that happens gives us an opportunity to notice our perceptions and realize it doesn’t really mean anything.
what’s my purpose, cause, belief? think for yourself
Awareness
Understanding
the purpose of our mind is for SURVIVAL and PROTECTION, which means that our mind’s will do whatever it takes for us to remain in our COMFORT ZONE.
Your Comfort Zone is in direct proportion to your Income Zone.
Meaning, the larger your comfort zone is, the more money you make… love you have
Your income only grows to the extent that you do.
“How you do anything is how you do everything.” So, if you’re telling yourself an excuse or some silly reason, then chances are that’s how you’re showing up in other areas of your life as well.
conditioning – conditioned into our subconscious mind based on what we heard in our household and our experiences – challenging your preconceived ideas – terrifying
general peace and happiness… learn to face enemies like doubt, worry, and fear. Energy, motivation and confidence are welcomed parting gifts.
beliefs and attitudes – I see you and I know you… We’re alike. That’s why you’re here reading this page.
Creating drama and Discord is what we do..
You’re standing on a precipice right now. I know because I’ve been there. Surrounding you is fear and doubt and limiting thoughts and behaviours. What lies ahead? Everything you truly want for your life. Are you willing to lean into that edge? Are you ready to lean into the unknown and take that leap of faith and to discover that you have wings? Are you going to trust yourself and your knowing enough to really say YES to fulfilling your life’s intent?
Desire/hermetic laws
I’m here to remind you of who you are and what you’re here to do. The reason a lot of people don’t find or create work that they love is fear, of course. Fear of failure, fear of the unknown, fear of change, fear of rejection, fear of looking foolish, fear of disapproval. It’s a story you make up about what might happen or what could be in the future.
Words have power. They are declarations to the universe. What you complain about becomes your focus and your intention, and it expands for you just like it’s suppose to.
It’s imperative to realize that it is not necessary to try to get rid of fear in order to succeed. Rich and successful people have fear, rich and successful people have doubts, rich and successful people have worries. They just don’t let these feelings stop them.“Your fears are not walls, but hurdles. Courage is not the absence of fear, but the conquering of it.”
— Dan Millman
being uncomfortable is good
If you are insecure, guess what? The rest of the world is too. Do not overestimate the competition and underestimate yourself. You are better than you think.
Rich and successful people work hard and believe it’s perfectly appropriate to be well rewarded for their efforts and the value they provide for others. Poor and unsuccessful people work hard, but due to their feelings of unworthiness, they believe that it is inappropriate for them to be well rewarded for their efforts and the value they provide.
Clarity leads to power. It is imperative that you know your financial objective
These four steps help you understand your current beliefs and feelings about money and then help you to disassociate yourself from the negative beliefs and replace them with positive ones.
$AWARENESS: Write down all the statements you heard about money, wealth, and rich people when you were young.
$UNDERSTANDING: Write down how you believe these statements have affected your financial life so far.
$DISASSOCIATION: Can you see that these thoughts represent only what you learned and are not part of your anatomy and not who you are? Can you see that you have a choice in the present moment to be different?
$DECLARATION: Place your hand over your heart and say… “What I heard about money isn’t necessarily true. I choose to adopt new ways of thinking that support my happiness and success.”
Touch your head and say… “I have a millionaire mind.”
We each have these beliefs that play on repeat in the back of our head throughout the day. These core beliefs guide us in our decisions we make about money and will ultimately determine how much money we are able to accumulate. If we believe that money is evil and that being rich makes other people poor then we aren’t likely to have a lot of money because our core beliefs are against it. The problem too is that these beliefs are part of our subconscious and we may not even realize the influence they have. So in following the above four steps you first identify the beliefs, understand how they are affecting your life, then you disassociate yourself from the negative beliefs and replace them with positive ones through declarations.
Limiting beliefs are usually subconscious. They operate below the level of awareness most of the time. You’ll typically notice them by their side effects first, often when setting ambitious goals and trying to pursue them.
Beliefs are formed through repeated thoughts, and the only reason they hold any weight is because you’ve decided or agreed that they are true.
Suspend your judgment and take some kind of action to test your assumptions.
It might seem simple, but these are the basic steps to moving past any limiting belief.
They’re only part of it, though. In order to really integrate a new, more empowering belief, you’ll need to spend time cultivating it. And it can help to go through a structured process to dissolve the limit.
beliefs we hold about ourselves are just as disabling and dis-empowering as the ones other folks hold about us
Of course, whatever we believe colours the lenses of how we see the world and our very next interaction. If we believe we can’t give that speech, lose that weight or live without our Blackberries or IPhones every minute it’s going to be a heck of a lot harder if not impossible to do so. The same goes for getting through anxiety, depression, or addiction. We start to integrate fundamental beliefs in this world from the time we’re in the womb. We’re already beginning to sense the environment around us, taking in and processing information. As life progresses we start to integrate this information as truths. Everything is fresh and new, so what we see must be how the world is. If our parents were erratic or abusive, we interpreted the world as unsafe or insecure and that stayed with us as a feeling of fear to this day. Maybe there is the belief that it’s impossible to love or be loved. Or perhaps they didn’t pay attention to us and so we sprout the belief that we are unworthy. However, at the end of the day it’s all just a story, not a truth, not a fact.
Exposing the belief – The first thing we need is a sense of radical acceptance of the actual beliefs and feelings that are there. If there is a belief that you are unworthy or incapable in some way, you need to call it out, write it down, and expose it.
Feeling into the emotional reaction – There will be some feeling that is tied to this belief. We also need to acknowledge the reality of this feeling and give it space. It also needs this same type of exposure.
Relating to emotion with compassion – It’s not enough just to expose the emotion; we need to do something that is restorative and healing. This would be to get in touch with a part of yourself that exudes kindness, compassion and/or love. As you feel into the emotion see if you can hold it with this kind awareness. If that is difficult, imagine someone you know, living or dead, who symbolizes this kind of attention and allow that feeling to flow through you. If any judgments arise around this step (e.g., this is so Pollyanna or I can’t do this), notice those as thoughts, mental events in the mind that seemingly come and go, and come back to this practice.
Rewriting the story – Saying to yourself, “In the past I have had difficulty with XYZ due to my old story, this story is not a fact, and moving forward I’m going to open up to new possibilities.”
Limiting beliefs have a method to their madness they keep us safe, safe from ever having to take a risk or making a mistake. If you’ve noticed, we really believe that little birdie in our head that keeps saying, you can’t do that, don’t try that, you’re not good enough, smart enough and so on.
It seems that whenever we initiate change in our life or take on a new challenge, we often encounter limiting beliefs. The emotions that get triggered are negative ones such as fear, anger, sadness or past failures. What happens is you come face-to-face with old behavioural programs that were created early in your life. If you’re not conscious of your behaviour, you’ll repeat those old negative patterns and then be wondering – why?
We’re not even cognizant that a limited belief is just a limited belief. Because it’s become a habit, we accept it as reality, as if it’s the way things have to be. We may think we are creating our limiting beliefs in the present, when actually they originate from past events and behavioral patterns. In the moment, we forget that we have a choice, a choice to choose a different belief, a different path. Basically, as soon as we step into the world of limiting beliefs, we step into our past.
Most limited beliefs are created in the developmental stages of childhood and in our adolescent years. As a result, studies have proven that most people are products of their environment. From the family unit, to how we’re parented, to teachers, coaches, friends, church and our community. All of these relationships play a role in who we become and how we interpret the world. If you are raised or parented in a culture of limited belief, this will certainly influence the lens through which you see the world. This is how and when an individual begins to develop their self-image.
As you mature into a young adult, you don’t see a world of unlimited possibilities, rather a world of limitation. As a child in any environment, whether it’s home, school, socially or athletically, if you’re told often enough that you can’t do something, eventually you will learn to believe it. At the developmental stage of childhood, the mind is like a sponge, eager to soak up as much knowledge and new information as possible. The mind will soak up what it sees, hears or is told to believe over time, even if negative in nature.
Based on a lack of maturity and experience, a child can’t be held responsible if he or she isn’t able to distinguish between a positive affirmation and a limiting belief. Until you become aware as an adult that these limitations exist, you can’t and will not make any effort to change them. You must first understand why you limit yourself as you do, so you can choose a new choice, a new possibility, resulting in a new you.
We have the ability to create consciously what we choose to in any present moment. When we accept our self-limiting beliefs as reality, we are actually giving away our power to create. Often, the reason why we give away this power so readily and accept limiting beliefs as reality, is because it’s what we know. But if you can summon the discipline of awareness, you can create the world of your choosing; a world of unlimited possibilities.
No belief is cast in stone. Any belief can be altered if you focus on changing it through discipline, repetition and meditation. Replace the limited belief with a positive affirmation of why you believe in yourself and what you choose to achieve. Continue this process a minimum of twice a day for 21 days. At that point, you will begin to realize a change in your belief system. The result will be the birth of a new you with “unlimited possibilities.”
Here are a few simple techniques that you can use to change your self-limited beliefs into “unlimited possibilities.”
• realize that we all have limited beliefs
• understand that you did not create them intentionally
• realize that you can begin to change any belief or habit in 21 days
• to start, be present & aware of who you’re being i.e. your beliefs, behaviour & actions
• ask yourself if what I believe about myself is serving me & my life
• if the answer is no, then commit to change that specific belief
Quick ideas and concrete tactics
1. Acknowledge It – Identify the limiting belief. Greet it. Let it know that you’re aware it exists.
2. Expose It – Don’t hide from it. Bring it out into the open.
3. Advertise It – Share this limiting belief with others. They’ll tell you how ridiculous you’re being when you can’t see it yourself.
4. Challenge It – Ask “What evidence do I have that supports this belief?”
5. Risk It – What if this liming belief was actually true? So what?! Throw caution to the wind and you’ll discover that “failure” isn’t so bad.
6. Remember Others Like It – What limiting beliefs have you overcome in the past?
7. Examine It – When did it start? Where did it come from?
8. Pay Attention To It – What is it preventing you from accomplishing?
9. Take It To Its Logical Conclusion – If you don’t get rid of this belief, what will happen?
10. Get Mad At It – This limiting belief is a jerk. Don’t make friends with him. Show him who’s boss.
11. Laugh At It – Seriously? This limiting belief is hilarious! I can’t even keep a straight face when I think about it…
12. Take a Break From It – Put it on hold. Pretend it doesn’t exist for a while. What’s different?
13. Exaggerate It – Turn up the volume on it. How ridiculous does it look when it’s 20 feet tall?
14. Reverse It – What would happen if the exact opposite was true?
15. Repeat It – Ever repeat the same word or phrase so many times it stops making any sense? Do that.
16. Prioritize It – Make it an important priority to get over this limiting belief. Stop putting it off.
17. Lean Into It – Sometimes pulling away from it only makes it stronger. When you stop resisting, it goes away.
18. Replace It – What UN-Limiting Belief can you put in its place?
19. Starve It – What actions and thoughts feed this limiting belief? Get rid of those and watch it die.
20. Make It Hurt – Try the old stand-by rubber band snap on the wrist every time you find yourself falling back on it.
21. Listen To It – What is this belief really telling you?
22. Respect It – Limiting beliefs shouldn’t be ignored or belittled. Underestimate it at your own peril.
23. Doubt It – Just because it feels real, doesn’t mean it IS real.
24. Invest In It – Put your time, money, and energy into overcoming it.
25. Imagine Life Without It – What would you be capable of?
26. Separate It – Maybe this belief is attached to someone in your life and you’re just absorbing it. Is someone else feeding it to you?
27. Disassociate It – Is there an action, situation or feeling that triggers this belief to pop up? Learn how to have one without the other.
28. Track It – Are there times when it doesn’t show up? What’s that all about?
29. Tilt It – Look at it differently. A new perspective may change it completely.
30. Sacrifice It – Yes, you may feel like it’s a part of you that you can’t imagine living without. Let it go. Sacrifice it to the Gods.
31. Reason With It – Logically. Truthfully.
32. Look for Twins – Is one limiting belief showing up in multiple ways?
33. Forgive Yourself – Don’t hold it against yourself that you’ve been harbouring this limiting belief. You’re human.
34. Interrupt It – When you notice a limiting belief rearing its ugly head, stop yourself mid-thought and…
35. Breathe Into It – Inhale, exhale.
36. Confront It – Look it in the eye.
37. Verbalize It – Say it out loud. How silly does it sound?
38. Write About It – Put it on paper. How different does it look?
39. Simplify It – At its fundamental core, what is this limiting belief about?
40. Engage With It – Start a conversation. Get to know it.
41. Connect It – How is this limiting belief connected to your mental attitude?
42. Align Forces Against It – Prepare all of your faculties for battle.
43. Reword It – If you phrase it in a different way, does it offer a different meaning?
44. Compartmentalize It – Isolate it to one corner of your mind. Don’t let it infect other thoughts.
45. Normalize It – You’re not unique for having these beliefs. Everyone has them. It’s okay.
46. Reframe It – It might feel like truth. But it’s not. It’s a perception. Reframe it as such.
47. Take Responsibility For It – This limiting belief belongs to you. It’s yours to keep or discard. Make the choice.
48. Disconnect From It – This belief is not a part of who you are. It is not your identity. Losing it will only let your true identity shine more.
49. Tune It Out – Stop listening! Turn a deaf ear on it. Hit the “mute” button.
50. Abandon It – Leave it in a basket at the edge of the woods. A pack of wolves might adopt it and raise it to be one of their own.
51. Take Action On It – Nothing will change without your active participation. What are you doing TODAY to overcome this limiting belief?
Once you uncover some of your negative beliefs, write them down and read them aloud. If, whilst reading some statement, you get a negative feeling in your solar plexus (the area above the stomach), it means that you have just uncovered an active limiting belief that is affecting your life experience.
Now you should understand that you are not a child anymore and that you have a free will. You can choose whether to keep such belief or to eliminate it. It is up to you. Simply say to yourself that you no longer choose to belief in this and that from now on you will look for the evidence that would show that the contrary to your belief is true.
I was born with this rare disability called arthrogryposis multiplex congenita. And my parents were both chiropractors and naturopaths. They were both super health freaks, didn’t smoke or anything and then I came along like this. They had no idea I was going to be like this until I was actually born. Because this was such a rare disability there was no real or good explanation for it. My mother couldn’t understand. She had done everything right. Why was she being punished? Why was I being punished? She cried for three months after I was born.
As I was growing up, I just need you to picture the kind of life I was living. Not only was it difficult for my parents, but obviously for me. I needed pretty much 24 hr care, how often do you need your arms and legs, all the time, right? Well I pretty much needed someone all the time. I couldn’t get myself a glass of water, I couldn’t feed myself unless I went face down in the bowl. So I needed someone to take care of me and it was humbling at times when I’d have to have others take me to the bathroom. Imagine having your parents take you to the bathroom at 11,15,18, it’s a bit embarrassing right? I had no choice, i needed so much help, i felt like such a burden to my parents. And I was afraid, who would do all this for me if and when my parents die. My life and my future seemed hopeless. I never thought any guy could ever love me, or that I would ever get married.
I had this massive list of things I couldn’t do and didn’t have and my life just seemed so unfair. I’d think, I’ll never be able to dance at my own wedding or pick up my baby when she cries. And it was hard. I struggled with these worries of not getting married, not have a family, not a hope for the future. And this was one of my biggest wounds…… Valentines day. Every year for I dunno 10 years in a row, I was depressed. All the “NORMAL” hot girls got truckloads of roses and all the good-looking guys had there hot girlfriends… but I never got a rose.
Something better is always coming… I have crushes on guys all the time, its crazy… I think I’m in love with a few guys right here actually lol…..and when you first meet someone all you see are there good points right, the rest shows up after you’ve known them a long time. We are all impatient, I’m impatient. I want that happiness right now. But you know what’s awesome is all the guys that I’ve liked are just a taste of what’s to come. Trust that the right thing is happening at the right time.
what are you struggling with, what are you waiting for?
Attitude is a state of mind, perception or an interpretation regarding a situation. Things in life often have the meanings we give them. We are always encountering times of uncertainty. Our country gets hit hard by economic challenges, acts of terrorism, and constant growth and expansion. Situations like this can cause us to adopt a less than empowering attitude. The good news is, there are specific things that we can do to keep a positive and profitable attitude that will benefit us and others no matter how confusing or challenging times may become.
First, do a personal evaluation. What is the state of your current attitude? On a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being low and unhealthy, and 10 being very positive and healthy, where would you rank your attitude? Do you find yourself complaining a lot, losing your temper, treating others with less respect, not caring, being impatient, reacting negatively when you hear bad news, handling situations in ways that seem to hurt you and others more, have suffering relationships, or hear discouraging words coming out of your mouth?
If you answered yes to any of these, you may need what Zig Ziglar calls, “A check up from the neck up.” It simply means we acknowledge our current attitude and give it the attention it needs so that it will empower us rather than defeat us.
There are no benefits to you or anyone around you to live life in a state of self-defeat or mediocrity. Your world around you will be a reflection of that attitude, a self-fulfilling prophesy. Your perceptions and meanings will determine how you do your work, treat others, and deal with challenges.
Evaluate your influences. Influences affect our thinking. They are what we read, watch and who we associate with. Influences can be any things that go into our minds. If you want to change your behaviour, you have to start by changing your environment or input. What this does is change your thoughts, and when you change your thoughts, your perceptions change, your meanings about situations change and your overall outlook changes. So if you have negative input, you will produce negative output at work, with family, in relationships and in your health. But conversely, if you have positive input, you will have positive output and more dynamic and beneficial results in all areas of your life.
Take a mind shower. Health experts tell us to drink eight glasses of water a day. Why? Because it’s fun to go to the bathroom all day? No. Because it gives the body oxygen, which gives us energy. It also flushes unhealthy toxins out of the body. The same concept is true of the human mind; we have to flush out unhealthy, self-defeating thoughts. Research experts estimate that close to 80% of our non-verbal or self-talk is most of a negative nature. So literally we are beating ourselves up all day with poor thinking. The key to change is a desire to change, a willingness to change, taking the right actions that will create right and positive change for our life and then following through. Take a mind shower and get the toxins out. Put good stuff in your mind, read good material, watch less TV, get around encouraging people. What happens when we do this is that we begin to let go of limiting beliefs about ourselves and what we are truly capable of achieving in life.
Treat your body right. Our attitude is most tested when we are tired, hungry and stressed. To prevent a defeating and out of control attitude from coming on, we have to eat right, rest right and exercise right. The way we feel will also have a dramatic affect on our attitude. If your attitude is not right, this is your fault and yours alone. Having the right attitude is a choice. What you are willing to do determines what you are ready to get.
Never underestimate the power of the right attitude. The right attitude is what causes a person to rise or fall in life. It’s what can take a person from being a cancer patient to a cancer survivor. It’s what can get you the sale, build the relationship, overcome challenges and maximize your life. A study was done of 3,000 top achievers, and 85% of them attributed their success to their attitude.
Having a positive attitude won’’t take away the challenges of the world or what you encounter personally. What a healthy and positive attitude will do is empower you to deal with challenges and situations in a quicker, more effective and healthier way. The right attitude will lead you to the right meanings, perceptions and solutions that would not otherwise come if you had a negative and defeating attitude.
The results you desire come with consistency and commitment. See what is working and what is not, and change your actions accordingly.
BOOK 2 – Have Wheels Will Travel
In my last book I talked about…
Here, I want to talk about playing the cards we are dealt.
I believed I was different, not normal, ugly, a burden, and that no one would ever want to be with me. I believed my disability was a curse and all I wanted was to be “normal.”
BOOK 3 – The Square-Root Of My Soul
I don’t know about you… But it’s something I have always struggled with. Quieting the negative voice inside my head that tells me… I’m not good enough. My project is going to fail. I shouldn’t even bother trying. I’m not going to succeed. It’s constantly there whispering in my ear… impossible to ignore.
It’s almost as if my mind wants to see me fail. It’s working against me… laughing behind my back. Maybe you feel this way too? And there is a scientific reason for that. That voice was originally there to keep you safe… complacent… and out of danger. But what once served us well while roaming the savannas so we would NOT get eaten by tigers… Is now nothing more than a hindrance to moving forward and accomplishing our goals.
Now…
What if you could switch off that voice… the negativity… and instead have your inner voice whisper suggestions of encouragement… Turning your inner monologue into your most powerful resource… a trusted friend… that has your back… that is constantly propelling you forward?
Well, you can.
Shift your perspective and shift your experience. Feelings and emotions are illusions but the more denied the stronger and more real they become. We all have a message to receive and share.
Self hypnosis secrets – Give Yourself “Hypnotic Suggestions” to Remove Self Doubt & Limiting Beliefs Hidden In Your Subconscious… then use the same system to rewire your mind with positive habits and purpose to awaken your best self in just 5 minutes a day…
What would your life be like if you woke up everyday feeling unstoppable?
Would you take bigger risks and reap bigger rewards? Would you finally give up those destructive behaviours that lead to regret and shame? Would you be more outgoing and have the confidence to talk to anyone? Would you stand up and take action rather than letting another opportunity float on by? Would you finally stick to your fitness routine and see your best self in the mirror? Wherever you are in life, I know you’re eager to live life on your own terms. Unfortunately, there’s something holding you back from greatness.
So I’m going to let you in on a little secret…. Your Subconscious Mind is Holding You Hostage
Often through childhood, we develop negative dis-empowering beliefs and ideas that influence our behaviour.
If you want to live a life of abundance and unlock your potential, here’s the secret: The problem with most personal development programs and hypnosis recordings, is they rarely open the door to your subconscious mind.
Once you have a path into your subconscious mind it’s easy to install life changing beliefs and habits… even when you’re not hypnotized! Tapping into your subconscious can change your life. “I’m a different person than I was two months ago” How Would Your Life Change If Fear Never Held You Back Again? Rewire your mind with empowering habits, beliefs and self talk and awaken your best self. Right now, too many great people are stuck in a whirlwind of stress and anxiety. Give yourself subconscious suggests to remove limiting doubts and beliefs holding you back… then use the same system to awaken your best self.
RULES TO LIVE BY
KNOW WHO YOU ARE AND WHY YOU ARE HERE – be and be with love, light, hope, peace, truth/lies, experience, create, play, sing, write, learn discernment, lead, build, grow, accumulate and release, remember knowledge, allow freedom, choice, explore, journey, choose forgiveness, repent, trust and return to God
PRIORITIZE SELF CARE RITUALS TO KEEP YOUR VESSEL AT PEAK PERFORMANCE – self awareness, realization, actualization, discipline, notice behaviour patterns, nose breathe, water hydration, nourishment, stillness, calm, nurture, nature grounding and rest
APPLY THIS PHILOSOPHY AS YOU SERVE OTHERS – nurture all life with humility and reverence
IF YOU FALL ILL YOU HAVE FORGOTTEN THE ABOVE – repent and remember to choose better
HOW YOU THINK FEEL AND DO AFFECTS YOUR WORLD ALWAYS – every thought you think releases chemicals in the body either helping or hindering
OBSERVE YOUR THOUGHTS AND WEED OUT ALL NEGATIVE THOUGHTS LAUGH AT THEM FOR THEY ARE NOTHING – examine negative thinking and understand the illusory environmental factors involved
NOTICE AND ALLOW ALL FEELINGS TO FLOW FREELY AND LET THEM GO THEY ARE NOTHING – resistance creates persistence
DO NO HARM – PEACE LOVE AND UNITY WILL BRING HEAVEN TO US
USE WORDS WISELY FOR THE WORD CREATED ALL
DON’T LET STUPID BELIEFS SEPARATE YOU
FORGIVENESS FREES US ALL BACK INTO ONENESS
Take stock and debrief with self – laugh at unnecessary serious making
I CREATE CARETAKERS… I AM – I love and care for everyone.. Ultimate disabled enabler.. Fun Friendly Facilitator for a Fully Fledged Life
Impulse control – immediate joy verses long term suffering…
My parents love each other and are at peace within. They do not need to repeat old hurtful patterns to maintain these grievances. There can be a change of heart and forgiveness can occur.
How to live a meaningful, purpose-filled life full of joy and ever awakening to our true nature of love light awareness. We are here to meet the emotional needs of ourselves and others. I am the host of Destiny and her Mikes reality show of #GimpinAin’tEasy.
Why this book and not another. What is our purpose here? You get to say. I get to say. We all get to say. For so long I felt hideous, an unworthy burden until I realized I get to choose just like everyone else. When I could finally see how we are all the same and all different at the same time and that it was all how we choose to see it. I am here to create the greatest love story ever told of Destiny and her Mikes. I am here for us. I am here to shine and show others how to shine. This is a story of seeking love, affection, acceptance, freedom and the endless struggle we all go through to attain even a glimmer for the briefest moment of it.
You can find meaning everywhere and in everything if that’s what you’re looking for. There are signs everywhere all around us all of the time showing us our path. Mostly we are too dosey and in our heads to see anything. We aren’t even present in our own lives. We exist mainly in the fantasy we created in our mind about who we think we are and what we believe ourselves to be capable of. I have a need to help everyone I meet. I love to serve people and see them happy and thriving. As a personal autonomy advocate I help people discover their potential.
To remember we are droplets of god/love/universe expressing all there is. And we get to choose, free will and such, what our experience looks like. We manifest according to our beliefs about our reality and we accept the reality we are given. This is a sticky wicket.
I listen and understand. What am I here to share? It is that we are all one and we are here to take care of each other as much as possible as long as we are able. Life is a labour of love. The more you love and care for yourself the more you are able to love and care for others. Awaken to your true spirit and purpose and flow will become reality. Free yourself from the waking death-mare and truly live your purpose. Life will seem to become effortless and fun, truly no worries for the rest of your days.
LIVE YOUR DESTINY – Destiny’s Voluntary Care Community/Project/Program/Network/Initiative/Facility/ Fund/Foundation/Trust – the great equalizer – because absolutely everyone needs care at some point in life – no discrimination allowed we are all equal here – enabling others to live with the focus on self love and care first. Facilitate freedom and fun through radical duty, responsibility and accountability systems. Enabling clear communication – creating common ground qualified through syntax and grammar contracts and agreement.. forum intended for shameless self promotion. What do you need? What do you have? What can you offer? Let us work together to build the world we want to see.
The voluntary care platform is designed to be free and flexible to accommodate for the individual’s personal needs and capabilities while considering and maintaining their personal autonomy. Free will should always be granted to every individual so long as there is no harm done. Independence should always be foremost. This is for anyone who needs any kind of care. Services needed and services offered should be posted so that people are able to connect based on needs being met… on a voluntary basis
Values – freedom, independence, autonomy, love
time to visit loved ones and to write and create anything heart’s desire
Life’s greatest lessons are learned when looking within… take massive action to change your life
Who are we? This is the destiny district community centre. We serve those in the community who need a helping hand. We offer private sessions to individuals in need. There is Career Counselling, Family Mediation and just a listening ear available. We have a kitchen/cafeteria, dojo, game rooms, pool…
Who am I? – mind/thought, voice, intellect, networking, negotiator, creator, virtual hub, free… Everyone just wants to feel loved and cared for. So always be serving in any manner possible. Face all the painful truth.. Truth hurts because we attach meaning to it. Live consciously verses compulsively. I have work to do in this life. Those who cannot confront their own pain can’t escape it. Hurt people hurt people.
Who do I want to be? gentle, loving, kind, caring, considerate, purposeful, peaceful, harmonious, balanced, truthful, honest, steadfast, strong, wise, discerning, compassionate, joyful, blissful, valuable beyond measure, forgiving…
Self love, care, awareness, understanding, compassion, forgiveness, acceptance, realization, actualization
Postulates – my next talk/video – hmoy feel limited or stuck, afraid and ill equipped to move forward in your life? Ty. Hmoy want to create your dreams and truly live your purpose? Excellent ty… Field of dreams, if you build it, they will come. I am building my dreams one day, one moment at a time. Harmony, balance and integrity are achievable states. Super conscious can you plz treat any beliefs, emotions, memories, parts events that are coming in to the active experience and do a massive change history and everything else to increase satisfaction. Notice what you need to. The super conscious knows that it created it, so when asked to treat, it can choose something else. Super conscious plz treat the original event, this lifetime or any other.
I just had the biggest epiphany of my life about being free to enjoy the moments of our life. We find this difficult because our mind is somewhere else fretting about something. The world will make you feel like a worthless burden, but god is always there whispering and guiding. We can’t hear it through the noise of our mind, the whirling thoughts should-ing ourselves to death. One day your life can suddenly have new meaning.
Destiny’s Doula – water/tub birth – close to BGH
Perceptions – Perspectives – point of view – how you see it
My idiot/genius husband who’s helping me write this book – we’re all weirdos
Every day is a new day ripe with possibility and potential we get to create the world we want to live in. We are the creators here each experiencing our own reality each unique perspective perceiving individually believing what we think we know constantly inundated with mis or disinformation. Sharing reality is so difficult, nay impossible. Who I used to be verses who I am now – self realization, actualization, manifesting. All the pieces of the puzzle finally all coming together like a masterpiece. Destiny’s party planning and catering services, hair cutting competitions, barbies and babies boutique.. oblivious-enlightened-woke.. schedule a conversation/talk with destiny – toxic identity, vicious cycle, wake up… awareness, understanding, transform, reprogram, internal resistance, integrity, break your own promises to yourself, programmed and conditioned by self/family/friends/culture traumatic events. Free to dream to be god in action. Internalize wrong meanings and stop trying -beliefs-repetition-identity… not you but who you learned to be. Let go of who you have been. We are always selling and its helping. My feelings are my perspective and it is unlimited. I don’t need to internalize my feelings and keep them stuck in my body. I can let them flow naturally and release when I’m through. I can tell you a story and it’ll be true from my perspective. But there are many perspectives other than mine and none necessarily supersede another. You miss the point when you are caught in the minutia arguing over right and wrong. Your purpose is to share your big idea, trapped in paradigms, thoughts, leadership, and betrayal – get ready for disappointment and insanity – get better at dealing with it. Realize it exists in you too; you are just deluded to think otherwise. You are what you do not like in others. Explore your Deepest Wound and make it Your Greatest Gift.
The former Red Cross building could be our headquarters destiny shackle-house for broken toys, where the weirdos are… Private Personal Perspectives care residence offers mending services to restore sound mind, body, soul to individuals. Variety of tools to assist individuals to find their balance and purpose. In house on-site counselling, kitchen/café, indoor garden, dojo/gym, music/art room, games/entertainment room, boardroom, spa room, divine love, subjective interpretation… GOD – honour, truth/correct, contract… correct, sentence, structure, communication, syntax, language
TEXTS – Conditional love, hypocrisy, emotional blackmail, double standards, special treatment, duplicity, family trauma.. truth shall set me/us free… the power within.. my life is an experiment to prove god. I have steadfast love and faith now because divine love came into my life through my Mikes. My fear, doubt and insecurity is gone. Contribution… the lands of Retardia, Crazyopia, Bitchburg, Sanistan..
I may not be able to walk but my mental gymnastics are astounding. I can reason away anything. existential crisis. As someone who’s self aware and able to control my emotions and able to see other’s points of view I find it challenging to relate to a constant critique. Maybe I’m wrong and love is conditional.
Mindset Mediation, #neurodivergent, two souls intertwine and see that they are one and reflect oneness to the world. I know you are afraid but I’m here with you.
Look how awesome they are when I’m not making them wrong or the situation wrong. Trauma and abuse counselling using talk therapy promoting self awareness realization actualization putting yourself in a box.
When your heart is pure you are untouchable..
I’m always praying and letting the love of god rain down and just let it saturate. Change is inevitable, physical reality is always growing or dying. Divine love is eternal and everlasting and brings peace and clarity to the fretting mind. I’m making it up. We all are. You’re doing this to yourself… My hand on a stick – solved problem.
Okay To Be Me Foundation What if we were all allowed to freely express and develop our talents and gifts? What could this world look like? I want to inspire the light within all of us. No exceptions we all have a purpose and a Destiny. Accessible through conscious choice and forgiveness.
I am one with the infinite, divine, supreme power of love, light, truth and peace of the most high creator god that is unconditional and eternally limitless possibility.
No Independent thought allowed. I don’t get sick because I know what is toxic and don’t identify with it. To do this you must uncover all unconscious toxic subconscious imprints. Ambassador – emissary of peace – Greedy selfish ignorant… information overload… modern love – circle of friends… unconditional voluntary… you can have anything and everything you want once you eliminate all resistance that exists within you. Life is a process of personal growth and transformation.. An opportunity to look, listen, learn, love and experience all there is. I appreciate your investment/involvement/help. I am fulfilling god’s divine love in action all day everyday. We will always choose what makes us feel safe and protected. Unbridled hope versus irrational fear…
My crippled viewpoint. I am building a voluntary care community where I get to manage a private care home for the aging and in-firmed. I myself am aging and in-firmed. This has always been my reality and I resisted everything about it until I realized taking responsibility for everything gets the best results. We all need to do this if we can. I am getting better every day at taking care and responsibility for myself and those who ask… depending on and being depended upon, accessing available resources, confronting my own issues, communicating clearly and effectively so that my sitpoint is known and understood, managing the work play balance with all it’s variety, variables, variations, spontaneity.
Are you touched by life? Do tears well up in your eyes? Do you know divine love? Let me guide you within to meet who you were always meant to be. Unrestricted, unrestrained, and un-traumatized.
I’m not infallible; I make mistakes and am frequently wrong. You are welcome to keep your perspective. Perhaps you don’t know what it is to be gracious or a true friend really. Thank you for reminding me why we stopped being friends the first time. There are no problems just opportunities.
#olddaddygarbage.. Best comedy duo/trio of all time. An Uneasy alliance. My best friend bites me, spanks and tickles me all the time. He’s a bullies bully. Although extremely offensive, he creates a frictional resistance that leads to growth,change, un-foldment, possibilities, potential and purpose.
I was gifted this vessel to do my suffering/perfecting. You can overcome anything by shifting your perspective. Marriage is watching someone you love suffer their own demons and not know how to help.
I get another chance to create love and connection with people in my life. I get to choose love over resistance and conflict. True power lies in being powerless. Pain leads to purpose. Your wounds reveal your why.
I don’t have to go looking. They will find me. Those that seek love light peace truth. I have hid in fearful ignorance but will shine forth as a beacon of strength cloaked in crippling weakness.
Radical honesty, acceptance, understanding, compassion. We can’t help our automatic way of being until we heal our wounds of all past hurt and trauma.
Just imagine and believe in yourself. The kingdom of heaven is at hand. It burns within you like a flame. Feed it the best you can and forgive the rest. Forgive yourself and everyone else for everything. Harbouring any hurt for any seemingly righteous reason only hurts yourself.🙏💗
My problem is I’m resisting what is. Myself/Identity I spend far too much time mourning how I think things should be rather than enjoying the moment. Is it fuel or giving you a complex?
We are extremely stuck to our own position. Everyone wants to make their point. Nobody is listening and understanding. It’s really pointless. We must understand our own darkness to be able to fully choose the light. The world is fiction and we try to be fiction too to fit in. It doesn’t work because we are truth trying to engage with lies.
I just want to be free. I’m very free except for my attachments. I’m the most free now than ever before. You can’t conscript my consciousness into what your all about. Personal growth through courage, cooperation, communication, commitment. Always be expanding and maintaining your support system.
I’m not stuck in my own point of view. I can love everyone. I can be wrong. I have countenance and can handle anything. Facts verses feelings and fiction. What is verses our interpretation of what is. Pigeon holing each-other. We can all be unreasonable and myopic.
Introduce individualized personal holistic wellness rituals and practices to promote good health and longevity. Like a health app that gives general recommendations ie. Drink water.. The immune system is real; stop forcing big pharma on the people.
Humble yourself to see your own ugliness and faults and then forgive it all. Getting over yourself and your own hang ups is key to inner awakening and true happiness. Its easy to achieve. Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.
Here, at Private Personal Perspectives Wellness Centre, we assist you to see that your issues are private, personal and your perspective. Through the emphasis of self love and care as well as individualized routines and practices everyone can achieve anything they put their mind to. Come with unconditional love, compassion and acceptance creating a powerful trans-formative space. Be the light
I have a steadfast heart and faithful spirit. I will live as long as there is something to live for. I am here to love everyone who needs it. I live by my intuition and inner guidance rather than my reactive ego. God is with me now and always.
I love you Kyle and I’m here for you. I hated myself and my existence for many years feeling like a worthless burden. Avoiding the problem doesn’t solve the problem. Identity well being is of prime importance. Humanity is in crisis. We have forgotten who we are. Entangled in false appearances claiming reality and truth. You my darling are understandably floundering. You need to look at yourself and your life and your family and take responsibility and accountability for your part. We all have to at some point I think. Its difficult to be a man when you believe men are all ass-holes and you’re not an ass-hole. You need to look at what’s best for yourself and focus on self love and care. Cultivate yourself and dare to dream.
I wanna teach you to believe in yourself. You are a miracle. Your uniqueness makes you awesome. trust the process. Evaluate and invalidate. What would you love to do with your life? Why aren’t you? Book your conversation with Destiny at 5192097415… choices, opportunities, openings, choose to love everything exactly as it is.
Knowing the best words/way to communicate yourself and your understanding or perspective. Handle your own shit so you can better help others. Get the support you need. Don’t stay stuck for long. Life is short. Make the best of what you have. Just believe and make it happen. Vision, reverence, abundance, trust.
I am/bring/allow/create love. The space for clarity, peace, presence, purpose, awareness, acceptance, understanding, commitment, communication, collaboration, creativity, community, integrity, cooperation, coordination, responsibility, accountability, transparency, truth, wellness, authenticity, existence, process, fun, functionality, flow, vulnerability, divinity, spirit.
Selling can be helping and serving. I am building/manifesting an empire of love grounded in unconditional care, acceptance, personal autonomy, liberty, freedom, responsibility, accountability, integrity, transparency/privacy, voluntary, cooperative, inclusive, personal relationships, understanding, compassion equity, self love, mutual respect, community, inner peace, and trust.
Your attitudes, judgments and conditions keep you stuck and separate from love. I am not subject to propaganda tactics, mass hypnosis, mind control, conditioning, indoctrination, psychological warfare. I love, listen and care unconditionally. I am here to show what’s possible with right thoughts, words and action.
Clear the minds of the people of all fear and worry. Make them present and alert to their mission. Lift them out of their pain and concern. Cool has no substance. Truth hurts and reality is painful.
In this here navy vessel we have Admiral Egan, General Geoffrey, Sargent Shackleton, Lieutenant Luna, staff sergeant Sunny, Private O’Malley.
PCPD – Brantford Social Justice Unit – Detective Chet Larson, Deanna Dangly, Captain Brick Thickness.
Nothing means anything/Everything has meaning. We get to create the meaning. We are a team of problem solvers all working together using our unique gifts to heal. Noticing our own conditioning’s, perceptions, perspectives, attitudes, judgments and resistance always preparing for the inevitable.
I am a servant of the Lord called to care for everyone. I manage the care of myself. Every day I get better and my tasks gets clearer. My purpose here now in this body at this time is to listen compassionately and share my perspective. Talk Therapy is my method along with radical responsibility and personal accountability.
The world is full of competing counter intentions. Remembering we are all gods here. Droplets from the eternal pool of love. I am Destiny which reminds me that I am love, light, peace and truth. And so are you essentially. We forget and become afraid. Ever present love is the solution.
I am a natural caretaker here and now. I make the best of my experience, environment and surroundings. Once I was awakened to my purpose my life found meaning. Everything takes on a new beauty after this. Every moment pregnant with infinite possibilities and potential. There is so much more light than I expected and it’s unlimited.
Everyone around me is happy and healthy full of life and vitality. We share a common vision of peace and harmony. We love and care for ourselves and each-other every day. Life is a joke so laugh as much as possible. Awaken to your true nature. Allow it to flow. Be love every moment. Be true.
I am abundant so that I may help others in need. My parents can heal themselves and their relationships. Egan can resolve his past trauma and be awakened to the miracles of love. Love can transform this world.
BELIEF – ACTION – RESULTS – be aware of what you feed yourself, fuel, resources. strong why, become unstoppable, failure is only a belief, failing is good – steps towards success, you learn as you grow, practice, repetition, vital to success. Fail as fast as possible, grows you. miseducated. Comfort zone I BELIEVE IN MYSELF
Where am I now? Where am I going? What is the next step?
Agreements – Thinking creates mindset
Who are you? Just be you… root experience… beliefs keep you safe and small
Self calibrated mission. Rewire. Look different. Challenge yourself and become uncomfortable
Subjective experience – stop faking it… getting the persona out of the way, stop thinking now, deep beliefs… know where you are – not paradise or utopia but a place of death, endings, suffering and brief amusements. Everyone will be lost, and will change and every conceivable separation will occur.
Why this book, values, letter, reflection of 12 yr old, why does it matter, vision, message, values, beliefs, ideas, stories… what, when, where, who, what was said and how.
What is my book about, statement of intent, my message/point, personal vision of success, say to about the world. Deadlines are necessary. Define your message, create your vision, set deadline. Success is finding a way to grow in the heart of a hopeless landscape. Who is my reader?
How perceptions become beliefs – values based on past experiences pos or neg – perception/thought – emotions/feelings about perception pos or neg sympathetic or parasympathetic = the belief system
Sweet baby syndrome – Subjective experience holds more weight than objective situation – belief creates reality
Teaching Division and hate while pretending to preach social equity and inclusiveness.
great mentor… great story… extremely disabled with AMC – can’t… for years I believed worthless burden with no value. I discovered not true we all have value. I exhibit that overcoming fears, limiting beliefs and learning to love yourself is possible
I help people see things from a new perspective, change their attitude and empower them to choose better thoughts and create new possibilities for themselves and life.
Stockholm syndrome
First child syndrome, third child syndrome
LRC idea for playing to your strengths, privately funded residence for the disabled run by the disabled to enable personal growth, autonomy and freedom. Resident contract – personal rights, freedoms, responsibility, accountability, liability for personal choices and actions. All in voluntary care alliance/movement
c-see-ovid-Greek for sheep-19-surrender… Unethical bribing, fraudulent numbers, fear driven hysteria hatefully dividing to wipe us out using extreme government overreach and mass media indoctrination campaigns and global censorship of all other opinions. Mental gymnastics, social justice warriors, virtue signalling. Propaganda, social engineering, Narcissistic, hypochondriac, mind control, information overload, exploit.
Considering perspectives with crippled counselling…
Crippled consciousness coach…
Self reflection, evaluation, understanding, awareness, realization of our own hypocrisy, control, mastery, seeing it all without judgment to rewrite your narrative to include Christ and honour the dignity of the human spirit in everyone. Too many of us let our demon run the show most of the time and use endless excuses to justify our own destructive behaviour. The demon that is always there hungry for drinks, food, pleasure, seeking endless recognition and validation ultimately leading to pain, death and destruction.
10 minute talk – Neutral… high point… low point… information…
Positive, happy, laugh … sad, negative, cry … MAIN POINT – we can change our mind – ACTION – self love and forgiveness… what if everyone trusted themselves? SUCCESS ACCELERATORS internalize concepts, 1support2guidance3accountability road-map, community of like minded individuals. 5 Pillars 1permission to be you explore 2problem and solution in me 3internalization inspired action and accountability 4together we thrive 5results that stick… breakthroughs I want to achieve. SUCCESS triad-clarity of desire, all-in committed decision, self-image and beliefs… 1 where you are 2 where you wanna be… awareness of everything – how to get beyond – excuses underachieving, undervaluing growth and expansion… knowing doing gap… inspired action vibe, go for it extraordinary success… internalize clarity of desire… new goal desire infers emotion, mind needs clarity, crystal clear and emotionally engaged… service and significance breed success and excellence… what if you succeed… prioritize me, aligning my self-image with my desires and goals. Do the self-image work. Cut the crap-counterproductive really asinine programming.. No more BS boundaries or limits… break out of habits and routines… or trapped and stuck… doubt does the most damage… doubt your limits.. artificial mental boundaries, self imposed prison… permission to brag about yourself.. I love this about myself- service- I can soar… consistent repetition.. recognition I AM the of essence of life radiate light and life everywhere we go… forgiveness letter to myself for playing small and holding back my gifts… emotion matters, feel great about yourself and your desires… SELF image and branding… values then habits to support.. act as if… sales is service and a skill… I am doing a disservice by not telling what I do how I do it and how I can help them… I can’t do it alone… guard your vibe… mindset and environment needs attention … are you happy with yourself, if not it’s because you do not believe you are whole, perfect, complete and loved unconditionally…
I am so happy and grateful. I now see myself with a refreshed viewpoint. I am happy, healthy, wealthy and free. I have all the leisure time I desire. I earn thousands of dollars a day from multiple income streams. I am rich and successful and my life is full of prosperity and abundance. I adventure and travel to all sorts of exciting places creating loving relationships with exceptional people. I empower others to love and accept themselves and create their dream life.
cripples create cooperative collaborative communities – just shut up and let it be – we are all crying on the inside. Validation and acceptance… know thyself, love thyself, be thyself… renewing my mind, grace, understanding challenges of others, belonging, acceptance, over-comers, example of dreams. Effort… sick heart from what he saw in the world…
Like my creator I am provision, protection, presence and praise..May I let go of who I am not, that I might be who I really am… we are programmable zombies… but are capable of awakening… my friends are thoughtful, mindful, compassionate, collaborative, caring… authentic, forgiving
My relationship with the lord Jesus Christ is private personal affectionate… tasks and targets… the spirit gives me hope – demons give doubt… keep remembering it’s not real.. people suffer their memory or imagination – possibilities. Realize the nature of existence. When life turns against you and you are still fantastic.
Neil Donald Walsh – your growth process is complete, there is nothing going wrong with your life nor has there ever been, you’re not alone… be the source, see perfection,
I speak to those with ears to hear… I have the right to remain silent.
Fun Topics: getting over yourself, what is truth, when do we grow up, issues that go unaddressed lead to more conflict down the road… overcoming setbacks, loss prevention, group homes, titles and transferable skills, sounding boards for each other, forgetting and remembering, problem solving, resistance/persistence,
Destiny’s life
1981 born February 16 at home… Gary Eves videotaped
Taken to Germany – cell therapy injections
taken to Florida – warm mineral Springs – grandparents home
mom goes to Scientology which creates my fear of abandonment, and I pee the seat of her car whenever I’m left alone – flyswatter
John Gillies boat, the faerie,
pets – guinea pigs, cat named Mickey, Penny the prize puppy from a picnic at pinafore Park
private tutoring, three Bears nursery school, Montessori school – Darcey, Kiersten, Herbie, Nathan, Garrett, Jeff
dad Picks Me up from School, We Get Bean Burritos from Top of Time
California to See Sally and Uncle Ken, Albuquerque New Mexico – Willie Nelson, Zoo… Fell off Cabinet – Turkey Sandwich, Coca-Cola
Prince Charles School – Mrs. Speakman, Mr. Crick, Mr. Lambert, Mr. O’Connor, Mr. Miller
Pets – Taffy Creampuff and Chan
Meet Angela Knill My Best Friend, Meet Howard and Jasmine at the Unity Church
1989 – Fire in House, Tracy Lasega, In-Hospital for Six Weeks
Mom Dating Gavin and Dad Dating Bridget – Howard and Jasmine
Live with Gavin until House Gets Things, Stay with Bridget on the Weekends
Bridget’s House Has a Fire – They Stay with Us until Their House is Fixed – Howard and Jasmine Go to Victoria School with Angela
Paul Knight Gets out of Jail and Moves in with Us
Pets – Ginger Cookie, Ming
Broken Leg – Gavin, Dad, Mom, Bridget, Paul – Crowded Hospital – Dr. Whately – Full Body Cast
Travel to Florida to Recover, Have To Cut Hair from Being in Bed Too Long, Fiberglass Cast That can be removed
Prince Charles principals – Mr. Kirk, Mr. Salmon, Mr. Worosz… EA’s – Mrs. Lovell, Mrs. Cook, Ms. McKinley
Landmark Forum – I was 13
Pets – Tia Maria, Lily and Sammy
Sherry lived downstairs. She told me there were ghosts. Played with the Ouija board. Stole five dollars
1994-99 – North Park collegiate – wrestle rama, bomb threats, sexual harassment, strange gas
Teachers – Mr. Prime, Mr. Ashby, Mrs. Bower, Mr. Hutchinson, Mr. Pacsuta, Mr. Beard, Mr. Gardner, Mr. Thomas, Mr. Parsons, Mr. Frankombe, Mr. Carol, Mr. Fuss, Mrs. Hartley, Mr. Nunns, Mrs. Cowell, Principal – Mr. Dean, EA – Gayle Burch/Archer
1995 – Bailey’s Irish cream the fourth poodle
Darcy moved here from BC, worked at Tim Horton’s, went back to high school with me
wish foundation grants the me a wish, I want to meet Leonardo DiCaprio, then Howard Stern, then Tom Hanks, went to DC
1999 – moved into apartment downstairs, Dad dating Raven
2000 – 2004 went to Wilfrid Laurier University
Dean – Leo Groarke, Professors – Peter Farrugia, Stephen Haller, Virginia McKendry, Joe Valladium, Gary Warrick
2004 – Landmark – CAP, CPP, TMLP, Raven out, Nina, Kathleen
2005 – MMI, WGMS, EH – California
2006 went to Mexico with mom and Joanna, met Ric
2006-08 Macmaster – Family Mediation
2007 – EWTC with Angela
June 2008 – met Matt Clayman, dated for two months, lost virginity, engaged
August 2008 – uncle Richard committed suicide, mom & Gavin’s 20th anniversary
August 2008 – met Dan Lynch. He changed my life… Joined Toastmasters
2010 – got Luna, Thanksgiving 2010 put Bailey to sleep. She was 15. Best dog ever
Christmas 2010 got Sunny
January 2011 – was an extra in a mothers against drunk driving movie
May 14, 2011 – Darcey got married to Ken, I was a bridesmaid, great trip to Vancouver
January 2012 – took acting class with Laurence Follows and Sasha
June 2013 – met Mike Egan at cancer benefit for Wayne’s mom… love at first sight twin flame
March 2014 – Mike moved in and Angela and Doug moved out Mar 5 Connor born – Luke’s baby
Jan 2015 – Mike started being my caregiver, March Saskatoon speaking, poker, comedy, Bscene
Jan 2016 – Mexico with aunt Mary, Mom and Mike, summer Edmonton to see Darcey Emma
2017 – San Diego with Mike in winter, summer Edmonton to see Darcey and Emma, Aug met O’Malley at Brando’s with Jesse for karaoke, started dating in September
2018 – Groupon trips to Niagara Falls, summer Edmonton Darcey Emma, Sept20PattyAdamWed
June2019 – Ireland with Mikes, Emma then Darcey visited, Nova Scotia to see BeckyAdam/Owen
March 2020 – Covid began, GameTime closed, lockdowns, fear rampant, wonderful friends, bachelorette party, wedding party, dream come true…
2021- new clients, new opportunities, vibrant health, Hamilton Kelly, Kevin
2022- Egan heart attack Feb, lost Wilma 104 March 5, Tracey 50 March 22, Ryan 39 June 26
2023 – new fun adventures, publish my work, so happy and in love and excited about life and the present and future possibilities. Niagara Falls and visits to Kelly’s
2024 – lost Red Cross building, Lusney 5 months, Nova Scotia trip, DKA 3 times in hospital, Darcey visited, met and lost Jeff, started carnivore life, met Dr. Deleon, Dr. Jack Kruse FB friend
marketing, sales/persuasion, networking, charisma, communication/writing, team building, leadership, embrace hardships, every problem has an infinite number of solutions. lifeboat.. business, culture, systems, pivot-able, up-sells, cross sell, negotiate back-end – bill gates IBM, vehicles automation, integration, marketing, deal, broker, partners, podcast, affiliates link team web alliances opportunities ideas, traffic stream owner, try means fail
self work – face darkness of own soul, integration, empty vessel, clearer no competition help each other build bridges, starfish on beach, present state to target state. what do you want? how to get it..
My Lord Father God of all creation. Thank you for this day, this life, this opportunity to experience everything there is and the freedom to choose and create myriad aspects of existence. I realize love is all there ever can be. Everything else is an illusion. Bless everyone and everything with this truth of reality. Every day and in every way everything is getting better
drawing man energy/stimulus interpretation/perception worry/doubt, fear, anxiety/suppression, depression/disease/disintegration, they can’t help it, the outside world is controlling – gain understanding, study FAITH, WELL-BEING/expressed, acceleration, at ease, CREATION, frequency
list and burn negative paradigms, limiting beliefs not our own. GOAL CARD want grow discipline. THE WILL TO DO IT
write – I am so happy and grateful that I AM healthy wealthy free and in love 50 times
begin to think, attitude is everything, awareness TFA attractions Result Self Image formed changed conscious understanding
psycho cybernetics ask decide what you want – satisfaction money instinct trust yourself
write a script for your life in 6 months in present… perception how you see it, resistance, fall in love with the journey
I am winning, learning to decide and accept, discipline your reality, faith, what if possibilities, don’t entertain the fear… successful companies – a culture b systems c interface d platform
earnings – need for what i do, my ability, difficulty replacing me. healthy attitude, visualize to actualize
Tony Robbins – I’m not only going to equal your achievements in life, but I’m going to challenge you at the post and pass you at the grandstand. Committed Decision – Think and act like the person you want to become. You can create your own economy.
perception, memory, will, intuition, imagination, reason
Stories – Santa baby talk no Santa, Carlos-grandpa silenced by grandma, fire, parents separate, chuckycheese9thbday, Scientology, Angela
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I command my spirit to increase my life force energy now 10-1 now
language linkages and as you learn, and when, so if you, because, but if, which causes… unspecified verbs – realize, understand, discover
Coach, counsellor, consultant, committed colleague. patience, persistence, purpose, practice, progress, gratitude, forgiveness, compassion, goals, worthy, health, wealth, abundance, divine eminence, fulfillment, creativity, spirit, invisible limiting beliefs, happiness
Talk Therapy, Listen/Hear/Perceive, Family Mediation, Recreation Coordinator,
Breakdowns=Breakthroughs abandonment/rejection, bonding/nurturing
Facebook ad – automated webinar – appointment – call
where are we? shadow programming needs to be cleared and integrated instead of resisting,
create new rituals, habits, practices to squeeze out unhealthy ones choices – checklists
acceptance and appreciation over toxic criticism
1know the states 2accessing alpha 3the mental screen 4utilizing the power BETA-waking, ALPHA-restful, THETA-dreamy, DELTA-sleep, pain scene, resolve action scene, end scene to remove obstacles
Free yourself from yourself – success over safety, retrain your mind, reinvent yourself become who you truly are
Everyone feels out of control of their life. You can liberate yourself from this feeling. through mind reboot, mind training, retrain your brain, shifting perspectives, altering perceptions and misconceptions, creating new an ongoing realizations
Surrender your ego aims so that God’s aim will shine thru with clarity. But not clarity in mind, but clarity in spirit.
Spirit guides. Mind observes. Body experiences.
‘Lean not on your own understanding’, but trust the depth of stillness in your spirit as you continue to align to your highest self for your greatest good.
The path is the path. Peace & Love.
“I am more than my body. I am my mind. My personality. My drive. My value to this world is not based on my physique or how much weight I can lift: it is based on my ability to inspire others to greatness, to educate, to teach, to optimize, to learn, to write, to read and to succeed in every area of life. I am fully in love with the process on the road to Life Mastery!”
The old identity still comes up from time to time. It sneakily whispers dis-empowering words into my ear. But I know that we can consciously determine what we want to let go of and what we would like to keep… ?
IDENTIFY WORDS that gives all the thoughts and feelings
We don’t have to live with the beliefs that are no longer serving us. We’re in charge!
The One Minute Video Formula – The Hook: This is the first few seconds of the video and usually starts with “When I was …” It’s job is grab the attention of the viewer.
Ignite the Pain: People are motivated to move away from pain. The second stage of a one minute video is to get your audience to think about whatever pain they’re currently in. This must obviously relate to something you can offer to help.
Describe the Solution: People are motivated to move towards pleasure! Your solution will give the audience an escape from the pain they’re in.
Call to action: This is where you tell your audience exactly what to do next. Be very clear just as you would if you were a hypnotist giving direct suggestion.
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I can see your big beautiful soul behind that crusty ego and you’re a miracle whether you believe it or not. LIFE is serious or life is a joke. my life was very serious until Mike; he made fun of me and everything I thought was important until I finally realized… how I structure my reality.. access and become your truth.. no resistance to all things.. overcome limited worldview, no problem to fix. just create confidence, stop focusing on the problem. use super-conscious to remove resistance.. structure is 2 or more points working together.. tension is created my a dis-equilibrium or pressure or a void.. all seek a resolution.. oscillating structure pendulum yoyo diet.. stuck river bank, flowing skateboard.. energy moves different in structures.. identity fights the desired reality, stuck – no why or DR too many?… i want i put forth energy i get.. feel the same rich or poor.. victim of circumstance more powerful than your creative spirit.. realize i have it all now, a creative focused structure flows, experience happy now… prisoner of your thinking, choose what you love and feel it, acknowledge you have the power now and live it… choices – i am the predominant creative force in my life, love my life, health and vitality, true nature and purpose… we invalidate ourselves and conditioned this way… we need to choose.
imbalance – when we focus on what we don’t want we breathe life into it. resistance is useful, dormant information from the past that pops up when you want to grow… remove emotional resistance from memory, self conscious – ice, unconscious – water, super-conscious – cloud… what do you think or believe about yourself – failure, weakness, fear never gonna happen, it’s too late for me, I’m too old, what buts do you have.. i created this resistance 0-10 it doesn’t matter when and why, but it’s my creation, acknowledge that it’s you and your choice to keep it or let it go. i created it. i can create different, get the most … I’m not broken, there’s no one way of being, fix themselves becomes their life. structure is key… re-code fixes open wounds… we don’t have to carry our old wounds with us, bad things happen but we create our responses, co-creative universe, other people might be stronger creators at certain times, waste time trying find a reason, we’re all equally super-conscious, realize that.. invisible instructions if you have to trick yourself into believing something else what are you telling yourself. I’m a liar – who’s tricking who? dis-integrity within fuckery. give the attention to what you want, your not broken you’re powerful when focused, journey to regain power, find what you love and take it to the world without limitation, goals don’t resolve how you feel incomplete. true choice, just enough is not a life you love, avoiding what we don’t love, negative vision, resolve a negative belief, not worthy, prove, a lot of disappointment, must be worthy to get, endless trying to be better, right good = should have what you want, unconscious belief not worthy as you are, not good enough endlessly trying to prove never enough, not going for what you want, think achievement is it, insignificant not seen or heard, bestselling author verses writing a great book or give up why bother, i don’t belong, always searching, quick to reject, feel abandoned, identity has to die too, I’m incapable, don’t have what it takes.. always increasing capability.. how to books for everything, I’m not perfect always trying to perfect, set ideal, should be, controlling how the perfect life should be, made a mistake – gut, did right – heart, what would you love to have do be in your land of plenty? blue mist, resolve structures, have integrity, stuck – learned helplessness 5 steps – 1.CHOOSE what do you want to create and how would it feel 2.TENSION feeling NOW vs future 3.EMOTION of end result take forward action 4.LETGO of current reality resistance benefits 5.ACTION correct action.
1.whatdoiwant 2.noticepattern 3.Stop 4.whatwouldnewMEdonow 5.JUMPIN 6.provensupport
confidence, congruence, conviction, calibration, competent calm.
whats the one thing in your life that if you had pure self belief around it would change everything? mess – learning uncomfortable action…… BRIDGE-journey.. solution, skill, mastery cause… effect… now.. excuses.. threshold, how long do you want to do this? autonomy eliminates resistance pain/pleasure, acknowledge, communicate elegantly, deep caring, maintain rapport.
you will only see the way by making the way – what did i volunteer for down here? in service of evolving myself and the world MY DOT nitch – woman 40, fear, disability, holistic natural, self love, responsibility, mastermind. none of us become ourselves by ourselves, no language, big blur, develop vocabulary, identify needs for support, needing help is not shameful – SELLING IS SERVICE, BRIDGE GAP story teach TOOL FRAMEWORK action how i see it vs how it really is.
success code – discontent 4-health relationships vocation freedom what do/would i love?
energy 1-10, clear upbeat thinking, digestion, joints, blood oxygen
hook-dot fears/goals, your compelling story – overcoming false beliefs, service bridge to irresistible offer call to action… struggles liabilities are actually super powers, insecurities have power in the dark, creates communities, share your mess — STUCK STORY SOLUTION
Do you ever feel like you were meant for more than this?
Do you ever feel like there’s just not enough time? I did and it crippled me.
How does one cripple themselves you ask?
Well it’s easy in a world where we have the freedom to think anything we like and create our reality.
In our lives we inevitably experience trauma and our ego is developed to withstand that trauma.
The ego becomes our defence mechanism and creates problems where they don’t exist to justify its existence.
The ego must be overcome so your true being can shine radiating love, peace and joy. This is who you’re meant to be. Change your thoughts – change your life. You can have it all.
GOD given gifts – empathy, see ways to manifest, create purpose, alignment, embrace true nature, unblock and master your energy mind, why you came here, dim light, repeat past, more than this.
credibility, convenience, competence, confidence…
Your goals are awesome… the how is unimportant… I had to give up, stop trying and let go of the attachment to particular outcomes. Overcome the feelings of fear, shame and guilt accumulated throughout life. Overcome the ego and liberate the limitless true self held in whatever your bondage paradigm.
Inspiration From The Chair: Confessions of a Self Hating Cripple.
Launching myself as a Personal Autonomy Advocate – offering virtual coaching, counselling, consulting, committed colleague, and family mediation.
Episodes on YouTube for my reality/comedy show Gimpin’ Ain’t Easy.
It doesn’t have to look a certain way. My life has proved God and miracles Are.
Write a script for your life in 6 months but in the present… perceptions… how you see it… resistance… fall in love with the journey. Maintain an Attitude of Gratitude, Generosity and Grace always… being in the vortex – when you feel good, when you are in alignment, when you are in love… choose love for all of it the darkness that got you where you are now. Imagine where the light will take you.
IF you have conflict in your life the word exists in you. WORD POWER MIND RESET – take away power of words – self hatred and self destruction – Conflict, Cruelty, Anger..patterns of thoughts. if there’s no thought there’s no feeling and no action. too many thoughts and too much attention on negative evil ideas… courage comes first, capability then confidence – “life is short weird and painful” Connie Wraight; or is it limitless and amazingly splendid? deliberate, creator, satisfaction, close your gap, exhilaration… immersion… repetition… implementation… mastery… benefits and outcome.. huge problem – simple solutions – step by step – believe possible for them… I can be your guide – stories – 30secRecap
structure is most important, not talent or hard work. i must be it to see it… identity is caught in limitation… you have it all now…
5 STEPS TO MANIFEST step 1 FOCUS-expands 2 BOOST-emotions 3 RELEASE-attachment 4 feel-GRATITUDE 5 GO-inspired action, intuition, dream big, repetition practice, set goal deadlines, need a big why, be specific on what you want, lead with love.. self conscious ego, polarity, limited life and death, bad and good… you can have everything just the way you are.. live your fullest expression.. energetic source code, reorient to a new structure… power taken by trying to change ourselves to be worthy, shift infinite super conscious awareness, energetic source code that you are, intuition heart love, remove resistance and fear, battling myself and the world, victim – I’m doing everything why isn’t it working something wrong with me… Identity – familiar stays the same – survival… i can’t have what i desire the way i am… lifelong search to become different… stop buying into the idea that you’re broken.. structure is denominator not talent… orient and structure to success outcome, not innate talent.. i must be it to see it… self conscious ego polarity limited life death rich poor…
During Tony’s course this week I had the realization that I like things to be hard. I never make the easy choice, I make myself struggle because I feel the need to show how strong I am. It gives me pride to do hard things, to suffer through pain and obstacles and accomplish things others can’t. It’s time to let that go.
My old identity was trying to prove not a worthless burden.
My new identity is The Floating Buoy.
I don’t need to struggle or suffer to be successful, to be worthy, to be loved. I will allow myself to achieve my goals without the uphill battles. I still have wants and dreams – but I don’t need to fight or suffer to get achieve them – now I’ll be floating downstream! Getting what I want in life while enjoying the wind in my hair and following my true path as I work with the universe to swerve by the obstacles before me.
My business doesn’t need to be strenuous, parenting doesn’t need to be arduous, marriage doesn’t have to be hard.
community involvement activities – benefits community, support not-for-profit agencies, institutions, foundations, promote tutoring, mentoring, visiting, coaching, assist others, supports work of a global nature, environmental awareness, promotes and contributes to health and well being of any group affiliated with a club, religious or political organizations, arts or culture associations seeing to positively contribute..
Discussions – Game of Blame, Game of Comparison, Ego, my big ego, Childhood Trauma vs Who You Are, Stress, You can’t get no satisfaction. Yet you try. My Search to Wake Up, Toxic Talks About Sh!t, Conversation between 2 awakened NoBodies, The Light, a. It is only what you believe, b. and you believe what you want!, How do I love my-self?, Sex & Love, Something to Know?, The Magic Trick, Enlightenment – Was Jesus enlightened?, The Search, the Path, Emotions & Feelings, Do you know what you are looking for? End your search
life is not easy or fair.. don’t fall into the entitlement trap of feeling like a victim.. unbelievable is a stupid word, give credit, you did it, it happens everyday.. happiness is an emotional response to an outcome.. result reliant.. let down frequently.. JOY is not a response, it’s a constant, the feeling we get from doing what we are fashioned to do.. define success for yourself and don’t jeopardize your soul – family, friends, career, mind-body-spirit, tend garden
Love Gratitude Forgiveness. Perfect Whole Complete – never good enough, blaming others, my opinions don’t matter…
Now that you have taken the time to release some your blocks, the negative thoughts that have been keeping you stuck, you have some space and freedom to begin redefining who you are, begin designing your life on your own terms. Not rooted in other’s expectations (partners, family, friends, children).. Not based on what society has deemed “appropriate”
This is the beginning of your new chapter, an opportunity for you to become curious about your desires and dreams. When you were a child you never thought twice about proclaiming what you wanted to do with your life. “I want to be an Astronaut!” “I want to be a world famous Architect”
“I’m going to be Prime Minister.” You were able to DREAM BIG, never stopping to consider what others would think of you, you had unbridled passion and exuberance when it came to your dreams.
Maybe people told you that wasn’t “right,” that you needed to go to College or University, settle into a career, work 9-5! Your entire life, others have worked tirelessly to tell you what to do, how to do it, and how to feel. It’s no wonder you are wondering if there is “something more” You have never given yourself an opportunity to connect with what it is YOU WANT!
Today, that changes.. Tailored to your unique personality.. Based on your strengths and desires..
Connected deeply to your passions.. Free from the opinions of others.. Satisfying and exciting.. Bringing you JOY!!!!!
Take all the time you need, make sacred space for yourself, free from the distractions of day to day life. It might feel impossible or difficult to do, I understand completely. But this is important, It’s EVERYTHING. Carefully consider what you can do daily to move towards adopting the traits of this person. You can make change.. It’s never too late. It isn’t impossible. It takes courage, willingness, and grace.
The goal for today is simply to begin reflecting, putting thoughts down on paper. Before you can start embodying the person you want to be, you need to understand who she is and what she wants! Here are some questions to get you started.
What are my strengths? Example – Compassionate, caring, resilient, empowered, speed reader, baseball, dance, writing
What do other people come to me for? Example – Parenting advice, relationship ideas, goal setting,
What do you get excited about researching online? What could you spend HOURS reading about? Example – Philosophy, Astrology, Science, Astronomy, Animals
What activities bring you absolute JOY? Example – Singing, dancing, playing soccer, guitar, writing
When you wake up in the morning, how do you want to feel? Example – Excitement, gratitude, looking forward to the day, passion, happiness, elation
If a miracle happened while you slept and you woke up feeling different, what would be the first thing you would notice? Example – I would have more energy, I would be excited to start my day, I wouldn’t dread having to go to work.
What is one small thing you can do today to begin feeling that way NOW? Example – I could meal prep before bed to make more time for myself in the mornings for me, I could incorporate more self-care, I could journal or try meditation, I could ask for more support
Finally, without thinking, write down what you think your gifts are and how you could use it to fulfill your ultimate purpose in life. Let your intuition guide your hand. Example – I am an excellent listener and a compassionate individual, my purpose is to support others while they navigate their own journey.
Radiance is the fire that emanates from your heart as unconditional love. That unconditional love, that comes from you knowing exactly what you are is what gives you a peaceful, beautiful presence. It’s the kind of presence that when confronted with the suffering of others, naturally responds with compassion. Radiance is about having the courage to be you, exactly, completely, and wholly as you are, and inspiring others to do the same. This is a day to connect to your true nature, to all of creation, which is beyond the capacity of the thinking mind and must be felt by the heart.
We cling to ourselves, our identity, our story, our beliefs, fears, torments and traumas. But where did that come from? An accumulation of moments. That is not you. You have choice, freedom and liberty to see and be love in the world. Take responsibility for every aspect of your being. Investigate thoroughly and deeply into everything that matters to you and seek the truth always. Listen to your body.. What you think matters. Talk about it out loud. See how it sounds. The practice is important. Welcome every feeling and emotion. Let it flow through you and allow, experience and release. The truth will always shine through when you’re open and receptive.
Freedom is when you can choose your response in any situation without being locked into a pattern of behaviour.
Met the man of my dreams and our relationship is so loving and perfect. Took a trip to Ireland and experienced unconditional acceptance, it changed me. Getting pregnant so we can share our love and joy with our child. Hugely successful with my speaking, writing, and mediation endeavours. Money for our desires is abundant.. The many paradoxes of life.. The truth as I see it.
People are inherently good and bad. Our lives are meaningless. We create our own meaning with others all creating their own meaning. What we create and who we are is our legacy. We get to decide. Again and again throughout our lives choices and opportunities will present new ways to see yourself and grow..
Live and love with generosity, gratitude and compassion.
I’m sorry please forgive me I love you Thank you. – for fear judgment criticism expectation Truth/Lies, denial, blaming, victim-hood
The truth as I see it. Perception – point of view.. You can be right or happy not both.
Destiny Acarya – Entrepreneur – Spiritual Teacher, Family Mediator, Web Designer Marketing & Promotion, Agent/Producer/Manager/Consultant
Nothing is absolute. Everything is relative. Nothing really matters. What’s Stopping you?
Fear… Am I okay? I’m not okay. Little voice inside your head. Internal monologue going on all the time inside your head taking you out of the present moment. Getting over myself. It’s not about me.. it’s an attitude of gratitude. It’s a practice. Something you have to do every day. With the people in your life. All of them. No more hypocrisy. Treat everyone the way you would want to be treated. Be responsible for our behaviour.
When u look at me what do u see? weakness, vulnerability, limitation, strength, adaptation, potential..
Accepting your Destiny. Destiny – reject resist, Acarya spiritual teacher No way… I just want to be normal fallacy
The world is our playground. Management of our needs and wants. Dive into our pain. Treat everyone like family. Love yourself first and you will love and have compassion for all.
The Dark Crystal- skeksis/mystics
Self realized – actualization, awareness, understanding of your full humanity. The dark and the light of who you are and why you’re here and how you can best serve other’s. Self care management, being conscious, conscientious, consciously aware of our addictions our impulses, drives, motivations, and notice that it’s not you. You are the watcher. Wake up and take control, take charge of your life and create a beautiful story. My body is like a physical manifestation of the rigidity and limitations of people’s thinking. I’m done trying to be… I’m just gonna live, dream, and love.
Thoughts, Feelings, Actions create our life our world our reality.
My life my struggles/stories. Crippled, Handicapped, Disabled, Retarded, Less than, More trouble than, Burden, Must haves/Can’t haves, Jealousy, Resentment, Proving Worth, Deserving, Fears, Excuses Anxieties, Valuable, Who’s Values? Thoughts, Beliefs, Behaviours, Habits, Getting over myself, Seeing beyond the self, Perceptions, Attitudes, Resistance to truth, Inevitable, Change, Time, Death, Distractions, Possibilities, Fear, Purpose, Judgments.
These aren’t mine… Master the mind. What are my thoughts? What are my feelings? Law of Attraction IS working all the time. Anger. Resentment. Jealousy. Acknowledge these feelings in yourself and all others. Letting go. Self acceptance. Self love. Compassion and love for all.
Freedom from Fear is Freedom from Point of View. Being Open. Miracles.. SHINE BRIGHT
CORE – I am limitless and my love is unconditional
BE a blessing always
DO enjoy life to the fullest
HAVE anything you can dream possible. Just imagine and believe in yourself. Its that simple. Made In Heaven – The Care and Feeding of Michael.
What is enlightenment? The realization understanding and application of the idea/concept that I am a spirit having a human experience that is utterly meaningless to anyone but me.
The mind is a super computer running all the time and needs its spiritual host to master it through practice and training. Otherwise it will run automatically creating our worst fears and everything we don’t want.
Texts:
I brought my new bf Mike with me to the Xmas gatherings and me to his. It was awesome my first Christmas ever not being single ????dec28,2017
Dear Mike, You are the best Christmas present I got this year. Just getting to meet your family and share you with mine was better than I could have dreamed. I’m rereading your card and tears are streaming down my face. You are so full of light it overwhelms me. I’m so afraid to be open and vulnerable except you make it easy. I am delighted and so grateful to have you in my life and for all these gross feelings that go along with it lol. I am so happy too. Your Destiny
Dear Mike, I love you more than words can ever say. The way you tied your life to mine has made me feel safer than I’ve ever known. I’ve always feared my parents death because know one ever loved me before. They think they do but I hide behind the falsities they each require. I do it with everyone. Even you. But you see through it all and see me. And you say you won’t leave and I believe you. Happy New Year 2018
People will live longer and better in an environment where they feel loved and valued.
Elesia and Raphael. My big brother and sister. What could you have taught me if you were intended for this life. What could you have taught our parents? Perhaps that it isn’t about them and to let go of their ego’s. It’s about caring for others unconditionally. Or it could be exactly what you make it. You were a thought, a fear, a worry, a sin, an accident, a potential, an abandoned burden. Was I born this way, a triple burden for you? I’m sorry you didn’t get to exist and make your mark. Your absence marked me and I will carry it with me and shine for all of us in this life.
Everyone thinks they’ve got the secret to whatever it is. I know you have the secret inside you for your life. All you have to do is spend time with yourself and your thoughts. If the thoughts are negative practice positive thoughts. When you can be with the nothing you can have anything and everything you dream… Wake up. You are in a nightmare of your own creation and only you can wake yourself up.
Your problem is you but you need to see it and it’s foggy until it becomes clear.
I am Strength Function and Vitality. I am Whole Perfect and Complete. I am Honest Genuine and Authentic. I am Generous Wealthy and Abundant. I am Love Peace and Gratitude. So is everyone else. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you.
I will finally get to be the mom I have always wanted to be. I will get to raise my little baby with parents that love each other and want this baby so much. I am a mother first and foremost. A mom that wants to see her love and light baby fly and soar. I will put the effort into practising for as long as it takes to succeed. for all who seek. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you.
You’re unreasonable expectations and subsequent disappointment are not my concern.
Pride and prejudice. What I want. What I think I deserve. Am I wrong? Who deserves my love? Everyone. Falling into the trap/snare of following without question. Religion, Government, Pharma, Doctors, Authority Figures, Celebrities, War, NASA, Christmas(traditions), Foodless Food, Consumerism, Commercialism, Media, Brainwashing, Propaganda, Programming, endless production and the destruction of our life giving world. All Distractions avoiding humanity and our fear of death. All to prevent us from looking within.
What do I think? Believe? Expect? Deserve? What are my feelings about it all? Emotions dictate frequency and attraction.
Why am I here? To experience, to learn, grow, evolve, share, love. Discover yourself your being. Acknowledge mistakes and wrongdoings. See the divine truth intentionally hidden from us.
Agent of change does for the betterment of all. Feelings and emotions cloud judgment. Follow your intuition. You can be free of your stress and suffering. What is your relationship to… food, sex, parents, yourself?
Life is like an arrow. Piercing suffering pain in the beginning during the learning and growing phase then mild discomfort till the end. Enjoy the rest of your arrow metaphor.
What makes us who we are? What dictates flow of life? Thoughts. Our thinking differentiate us and knits us together. The thoughts create feelings and our actions give us our result.
Everyone struggles and everyone has value. Stress and suffering are self imposed. Because for some reason we think things should be different and more fair for us. Our life isn’t about us. It’s the impact we have on others and the world we leave behind. It’s for those we love and care for.
If you’re upset about something you deserve to be upset. Living inside your justification story bubble. Free yourself and everyone else. I’m cursed I’m lucky. It’s all the same just viewpoint shifting. We are all broken toys. Each story unique and beautiful. Struggle and pain is inevitable and necessary to overcome and grow. Compassion Understanding and Love are infinite and will heal and transform.
I decide and choose to love people for their capabilities rather than despising them for their deficiencies. This allows love to flourish and take over.
Your fairy-tale isn’t worth your fun. How can I listen and understand in such a way that you can let this go… It all starts with a thought. I’m not enough. We believe it and then orchestrate our world to reinforce that as our truth. We argue to justify our behaviour to ourselves and others. We can choose different as soon as we start.
We are born pure peace, love and light. The world exhibits darkness at every turn and we start reflecting darkness forgetting our light. After enough pain, suffering and headache hopefully we remember our light and choose to be that. Realize the trance and create a new one.
Consider that every thought and belief might be wrong. Maybe there are no rules and we are just making it up as we go. The infinite being expressed through the limited physical body feels encumbered and anxious by matter, energy, space and time because it is too identified with this physical life.
Take 100% responsibility for your own feelings. You’re feelings make you sick. You can choose to drop them. Decide and practice only loving emotions always. When you notice wrong thinking realize it isn’t yours. Understand it’s from past subconscious traumas and forgive yourself and grow forth.
Happiness is sharing my life and love with those I love??
I am a Personal Autonomy Advocate and Disability Consultant. I guide people to see beyond their limited perspective freeing them to achieve their ultimate potential giving them lasting happiness, fulfillment and peace. I focus my attention and intention towards loving and caring for others within my reach.??
“What I want you to know is that I, R H Shandler, was and still am a jerk and an ass-hole. I occur automatically as a make wrong artist. I always felt so wrong in myself it seemed my only salvation was to make others wrong. The antipathy I created with my mother spread into all other relationships, so there was no possibility with me; they were doomed to fail.” – Robby, Shellora and Shurli Shandler might have been a happy family if only they had changed their names.
Fear and hope lead to beliefs beyond logic and rationality.
BE IN CHARGE OF YOUR OWN CARE – in an instant one can have an awareness of being a living programmed zombie already dead in sin/mistakes and this can create fear/panic, which is good as it must spark a change.
The body becomes sick to wake up the brain to its thinking, attitudes, beliefs, behaviours, and habits to restore/create a conscious aware and capable being…
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